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Exotic means there, not here. Them, not us. You, but definitely not me. Exotic is a word defined by the speaker’s perspective, which assumes dominance and normalcy over the person being called exotic.
What gets me about people who cry “culture is meant to be shared!” at any mention of cultural appropriation, is that they forget that sharing requires two willing parties exchanging ideas, or time for learning etc, not just one party taking as they please without any consideration.
All girls continue to be taught when they are young, if not by their parents then by the culture around them, that they must earn the right to be loved — that “femaleness” is not good enough. This is a female’s first lesson in the school of patriarchal thinking and values. She must earn love. She is not entitled. She must be good enough to be loved. And good is always defined by someone else, someone on the outside.
I’m really weird about things meant to “humanize” sex workers like “yeah, she’s a stripper, but she’s also a med student with a 4.0 GPA so don’t judge her” like, okay, so, and there’s someone in that same club who dropped out of high school and is a teenage mom, does that mean she’s lesser?
Yes, there are going to be men who realize they have been abusers, harassers, and rapists. That is not going to be easy for them to hear. Yes, men are going to realize that the language that is a part of their everyday lives is degrading and violent. It will not be easy change their tongues. Yes, men are going to realize that the economic, political, and social clout they enjoy is the result of thousands of years of repressive laws and customs aimed at ensuring their dominance, and much of that has to do with causing physical harm to women to secure their silence. And that is going to be really, really uncomfortable to hear. The truth often is.